An interesting thing happens when you put your thoughts into the Universe – it responds. If you want something, you need to ask for it. It seems simple, but I think a lot of us have a hard time doing this. I spent a large portion of my childhood learning to be self-sufficient. I was a proud child, declaring “I do it mine feltch!” I never let go of this. I have always tried to do things for myself. I don’t need help. My motto could be “I got this.” I once drove around for an hour lost because I refused to stop and ask for directions. God forbid a stranger in a gas station think I don’t know my way around a place I have never been!
Don’t get me wrong, independence is a beautiful thing. But too much of a good thing is not so good. There is that line, and being the extremist that I am, that line gets pushed to the outermost corners. I’m either totally self-sufficient or completely incapacitated, unable to tie my own shoes. So for me, many times, asking for what I need feels likes saying I am an infant who cannot feed herself. I know that this is irrational, but this is what it feels like. I am stubborn, but I am also smart enough to know that my way is not the only way. So, I put a call out to the Universe for some strong women, for some brave women to show themselves so I could know who to hold on to… and they did. They came out in some unexpected places too.
But even more surprising was that a friend who I had lost came back and declared that she too wanted to be brave. Sometimes a simple act of letting that wall down and asking for what you need is all it takes. To meet a bunch of strong, brave women I had to be strong and brave myself. And in doing so, someone I love saw that she could do the same. The ripple effect of one small gesture is amazing.
I love that in this world we are all connected whether we want to be or not. I love that we can choose to pull each other up. I love that we can change and grow every day and in doing so we can inspire others to do the same.